Internet defends uncle for giving him $1,000 to teen despite parents’ wishes

One of his generous uncles won the support of thousands after revealing how – and why – he cunningly gave his 17-year-old nephew $1,000.

in viral form reddit The post posted on hole r/AmITheA**, Redditor u/Dangerous-Work6020 (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) lamented his nephew’s misfortune and described in detail his attempt to turn the tide in the teen’s favor.

entitled “[Am I the a**hole] To give my nephew $1,000? ” Mail It received nearly 8,000 upvotes and 500 comments in the last day.

“…My nephew got the short end of the stick,” the OP began. “He is the eldest child in his family and his mother and father (brother) forced him to be the caretaker of his younger siblings.”

Going on to explain that his nephew “has nothing of his own and has to share everything,” the original poster said that when the 17-year-old tried to get a summer job, he was promptly shut down.

“His parents beat him up because they couldn’t afford to camp for the younger kids,” OB wrote. “He was really upset about that.”

The original poster also said that at this moment he knew he had to step in.

OB wrote: “I am just one guy and do a good job financially.” “I asked him if he wanted to make me a cake and lasagna (he loves to cook) and I would pay him.”

“He did a very good job and I paid him $1,000,” the OP continued. “I was just looking for an excuse to give him the money.”

“Later, his parents told me that I shouldn’t get rid of a [17-year-old] OB added, “$1,000 in cash and it was irresponsible. They asked me what he would buy and I said what he wanted.”

As families across the United States experience rates of inflation and a rapidly rising cost of living, parents have been forced to cut many items and services from family budgets, including summer childcare programs.

Last year, the American Camp Association reported that the average cost of a summer camp in the United States was $76 per day for day programs and $172 per day for overnight programs.

This year, those numbers are up significantly, jumping to $178.49 and $448.53.

To combat rising camp costs, some parents have done it I looked at their older children As viable alternatives, stick teens with young children throughout their summer vacation.

but while Relying on an older brother or sister for childcare Cost effective, lasting effects can be astounding.

When children are “bred” by their parents, they often retain similar responsibilities well into adulthood, accordingly Psychology Today.

“Children who are raised as parents often need work within the child,” Psychology Today Contributor Whitney Goodman confirms. “They usually struggle to be entertained and can easily be drawn into the role of a caretaker.

“Often their value is directly related to what they can offer to others,” Goodman adds. “Structure usually seems to them safer than playing or improvising.”

Despite the long-term effects of childminders, research published by the American Psychological Association shows that nearly 1.4 million children between the ages of 8 and 18 As caregiver for their brothers.

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Members of the r/AmITheA**hole forum on Reddit defended one uncle who devised a scheme to give his 17-year-old nephew $1000.
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In response to the viral Reddit post, Redditors acknowledged the risks involved in pushing kids into parental roles and called out the original poster’s brother and sister-in-law to take advantage of their 17-year-old son.

“They don’t want him [be] Being independent because they will lose their free babysitter when they turn 18,” Redditor u/NikkeiReigns wrote in the top comment to the post, which garnered over 16,500 upvotes.

Redditor u/MariaInconnu added, “Talk to his parents about the fact that fatherhood is child abuse.” Preventing him from working could constitute financial abuse.

Redditor u/LouisV25, whose response received more than 4,000 votes, also commented on the financial implications of the viral post.

“[Not the a**hole]They wrote “It’s your money. You can take him to a bank and open a trusteeship account. It will be in his name [and] You will be the adult who controls it.

“This is a good way to help him manage money and get rid of parenthood,” they added.

In a separate comment, which garnered more than 1,500 upvotes, Redditor u/SagaciousSagi echoed that sentiment, but with an extra caveat and advice for the original poster.

“Make sure his parents don’t steal this money,” they wrote. “[Not the a**hole]but be careful not to give too much cash.

“If he wants anything specific, give it to him instead,” they added.

NEWSWEEK u/Dangerous-Work6020 has been reached for comment.